“Adulting” doesn’t mean giving up on your passions

This term “adulting” is now quite a popular term, typically seen on mugs, t-shirts and hashtags on IG. What does this word even mean? I guess it means someone is a productive citizen with a 9-5, a mortgage and finds more pleasure in purchasing new furniture and leaf blowers than tickets to a hip-hop show or some new lipstick.

During childhood, many of us were given the space and time to explore interests and try new things.  I was blessed to have parents who allowed me to practice karate, play the cello, take art classes and much more—I was a gymnast and shot putter too, LOL.

Whatever I wanted to do, my parents let me try it and encouraged me all the way. They were also cool if I decided a particular activity just wasn’t my thing—Nothing new, we all know children thrive when exposed to new things and activities. To this day (because my parents supported me in my endeavors), I truly believe I can do anything.

I guess when you grow up and start “adulting”, the need to explore new interests disappears, right? I say no. Actually, I think it’s a bad idea to stop exploring new interests. Just because you are an adult with more responsibility, it doesn’t mean your personal development is over—Far from the truth.  Souls and spirits should be nourished always—that’s how we meet people, learn about ourselves, create wonderful memories and maintain a healthy self-esteem.

Recently, I decided to explore the industry of skin care, wellness, beauty and fitness.  I’ve always had an interest in these industries and I wanted to be a small business owner in these arena.

With the love and support of my family, I enrolled in beauty and herb school at the School of Medical and Botanical Aesthetics and Herbalism Roots. I learned so much about skin care, herbalism and wellness.  After a lot of hard work and long hours, I became a licensed esthetician and herbalist in 2017. I recently launched a new business, Just a Pretty Face Skin Care and Wellness and I am so happy—I’ve even made some money, LOL.

In addition to loving the beauty industry, I also LOVE the fitness industry—I’m a 14 year runner. During that time, I’ve run two full marathons, three half marathons, a bunch of 5Ks and ran while pregnant. Some of the my most memorable times—happy and sad– are connected to running and the music listened to on those runs (especially the long runs—Sade’s “Never as good as the first time” helped me push through the last six miles at the KCK marathon).

About a year ago, I developed really bad runner’s knee (poor stretching and old shoes) and I had to take a break. During that break, I started to experiment with weight lifting (in an attempt to rehab my knee).

After months of strength training, I noticed drastic changes in my body. I saw cuts and definition. I saw a six pack! I saw better looking calves, Angela Bassett arms and my clothes looked phenomenal on me…no turning back.

My knee got better and I started to run again, but I limited (the runs) quite a bit. I’ve seriously weight trained for two years now and during the time of perfecting my form, I always noticed the bodybuilding ladies (in the gym) either going hard or posing in the mirror—It was clear they were preparing for something. They looked awesome!

After watching a zillion YouTube videos on female body building and the various divisions and talking to folks in the gym, I decided to embark on the journey of competing in a Bodybuilding Bikini competition–April/May timeframe. The bikini division is not about huge muscles—it’s about presenting a tone, lean physique.

I’m excited, I’m scared, but I have great support—My mom was unsure about the whole thing, but she came around, LOL. This journey will be hard and different, but it’s another opportunity to experience something new and challenge myself.

I’m no different than my 9-year-old. I need to continue to grow and develop. Yes, I “adult” hard—One of my most favorites places to go is Lowe’s Home Improvement and I like learning about the various components of my health care insurance plan; however, I don’t neglect my “non adulting” interests—I need that balance. That balance makes me a happier woman, a better parent and a more productive person at my place of employment.

I encourage everyone to pursue their interests…whatever it is—I knew a lady who loved Scrabble and had a dream to play in a national tournament. She pursued that shit and was so happy—Not sure how she did, but just having the confidence alone to pursue that is totally “winning”.

Whatever is it that you’re passionate about…make it a permanent part of your life. Your spirit and soul require that of you 🙂 Thanks for reading my stream of consciousness.

Want to be a better writer? Cut these common filler phrases from your work

Author:  Nicole Fallon, Muck Ruck Daily

The biggest improvement in my writing skills happened when I became an editor.

Writers are often too familiar with their own ideas to spot mistakes and poor phrasing in their work. When you’re reading someone else’s writing, though, it becomes easier to see points that need clarity and sentences that can be worded better.

Entrepreneur contributor Shaun Buck reminds us that people have an “infinite number of options” for media consumption, and if they get bored with your piece, they’ll simply find another article to read. It’s critical to capture and keep readers’ attention up front with concise, to-the-point ideas; long-winded narratives will only drive them away.

This is especially true in press releases, which reporters will delete if it take too long to read them (Jessica Lawlorrecommends 300-500 words maximum).

As a professional copy editor, I read and review dozens of articles every week, and I’ve noticed some common clunky and/or extraneous phrases that even the most talented writers occasionally fall back on.

Whether you’re writing as yourself or ghostwriting for a client, do a quick self-edit and see if you’ve slipped any of these “fillers” into your piece.

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The Interactive Resume

As we all know, content these days is more digital and interactive. When it comes to your resume, the same shareable content rules apply.

My resume is visible on my site, but instead of stagnate words on a page, I decided to hyperlink my accomplishments and experiences to relevant articles (or actual earned media placements), videos and social media posts.

This tactic is quick, easy and allows readers of your resume to interact with your wonderful professional experiences. I really believe our resumes, cover letters and professional websites should flow like a story (thank you Forbes Magazine). We want people to enjoy reading about our journey through work and life.  Note: Don’t forget to periodically check your links to ensure they work.


esthetician & budding HERBALIST…

For more than 13 years, I have informally studied the areas of wellness, skin care, beauty and fitness. My more recent, professional interest in the field grew from tragedy. In early 2016, my husband was instantly killed in a car accident.

To cope with my grief and heal myself, I decided to dig deeper and formally educate myself about physical and emotional wellness.

Beginning July 2016, I began my journey to become a licensed esthetician and herbalist.  I enrolled in the School of Botanical & Medical Aesthetics as well as Herbalism Roots (Denver’s only comprehensive herbalism program). During my year-long, intense studies, I gained a great amount of knowledge and I noticed my broken heart beginning to heal…Connecting with mother nature on a deeper level and receiving facial services every weekend will make a girl feel better.

To say the least, the lessons learned in school changed my life and I am extremely blessed and honored to have this knowledge and a different set of skills.

Status Quo: 52 weeks of affirmations

Status QuoPeace! I am so excited to announce ZIN’s new book, Status Quo: 52 weeks of affirmations.  Please read the foreword below. Thanks so much for your love and support!

Status Quo: 52 weeks of affirmations Foreword…
ZIN always strived to make ALL people feel important and valued. He was very active on social media, especially Facebook. Oftentimes, his posts were affirming messages to family and friends and his ‘status quo’ was to empower and encourage people to do great things. Status Quo: 52 weeks of affirmations, is a compilation of ZIN’s most positive and uplifting Facebook status updates. When used for good, social media definitely has the power to inspire, educate and yes, affirm… #ZinMemorialProject

Thanks to the Houston Chronicle for the lovely article.

Hidden Figures: When Computers Wore Skirts


Katherine Johnson was 90 on Tuesday, an apt date because it also was National Equality Day.  Not that she ever thought she wasn’t equal.

“I didn’t have time for that,” said Johnson in her Hampton home. “My dad taught us ‘you are as good as anybody in this town, but you’re no better.’ I don’t have a feeling of inferiority. Never had. I’m as good as anybody, but no better.”

But probably a lot smarter. She was a “computer” at Langley Research Center “when the computer wore a skirt,” said Johnson. More important, she was living out her life’s goal, though, when it became her goal, she wasn’t sure what it involved. Read More

Source: Jim Hodges – NASA Langley